Tales of a Midwest Lutheran on the East Coast

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Faith and Social Media (my two cents)

This was my article for our June newsletter.

In April, I attended a workshop held at Crossroads camp about engaging young adults in ministry. Now, you may be thinking, “But Pastor Lydia, YOU are in that category, right? Shouldn’t you naturally KNOW how to minister to your peers?” The trust is, I am rather an anomaly in my generation. While my confirmation class was the largest in my home church’s history (17), almost none of my fellow confirmands has been to church since. But it is also true that, like the rest of my generation (called “Millennials” by many social physiologists) I grew up navigating technologies that were unheard of even in my parent’s generation. 

We are living in a historic moment, where technology is exploding all around us and the world is changing faster than we can keep up with it. Where in the world is God in the mists of Facebook, Tumblr, Instagram, Pintrest, Pandora, iPhones, texting, and Twitter? 

I recently heard a story about two shoe salesmen who traveled to Africa during its colonial era. The first salesman, depressed that the local people went barefoot, wrote home “Bad news. No one here wears any shoes.” The second scribbled his letter home in excitement: “Great news! NO ONE here has shoes!” This story comes from a fantastic TED talk given by Benjamin Zander (click HERE), which can be found on the TED website (TED talks are short, interesting talks given by experts and creative people around the world), Though Zander‘s talk is about classical music, this story he used has much to say about the world that the church finds itself in today.

We can look around us in dismay and think about those “darn kids” on their phones all the time, or we can wonder along with them about how to use what is available to us to connect TO people. It is true, technology can be an isolating distraction, but it is also a powerful tool that connects and engages people. This workshop I attended opened my eyes to the awesome potential at our fingertips, and the possibilities for ministry with people of all ages. For example, I post my sermons on my blog: 
www.likealutheran.blogspot.com and I’ve been trying out Twitter and Instagram.


 God has endowed us with creativity, curiosity, and the desire for connection. I hope that you will be exploring, trying, failing, testing, wondering, and discovering along with me, and that we can all find ways to grow in our faith together. 

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Post-Assembly Sermon

Grace and peace to you from God our Father and from our Lord and Savior Jesus the Christ. Amen.

Let’s say you want to save for the future, to make sure that you will be provided for when you are no longer working, whether in the event of a planned retirement or for an unforeseen illness or accident.  You currently have plenty of options before you that you could invest in: insurance policies, pensions, 401(k)s, the equity on your home, and different kinds of savings accounts, not to mention social security and Medicare. The idea is one or many of these options can help in the event of “a rainy day.”

During the time of Jesus, none of these options existed. For people, especially women, looking to invest in their future, most had only one choice: to have children, especially male children. I’ve heard people make quips like “be nice to your kids, because someday they will choose your nursing home!” In those days, your children WERE your nursing home, because there was no other option.

Imagine for a moment that you are the woman in this story. Though your husband has died and can no longer provide for you, you were fortunate enough to have had a son who survived to adulthood. After your husband’s death, it would have been his job to take you in and support you. You would have been safe living under his roof while he had the opportunity to earn a living. While you lived with him, he would have taken a wife and had children of his own, and you would have helped care for them. You might have had the satisfaction of seeing your son have a son of his own, and you would have died happy, knowing that he and your daughter-in-law would be provided for when the time came.
Now imagine you are instead standing next to the casket of your only son, knowing also that any chance at future security died with him. Your rainy day has arrived, and you are filled with grief for your son and fear for your future.

And just then, Jesus showed up on the scene.

We’ll get back to Jesus and the widow in just a moment, but first I want to tell you about something I heard while at the New Jersey Synod Assembly this weekend. During the Bishop’s report, we heard about how different organizations are responding to the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. One pastor shared about how one particular shelter and soup kitchen in Union City was able to feed and house people because of their generator on the cold nights after the storm. They were nearly full when suddenly over 90 homeless people were dropped off by bus on their doorstep from another part of the city. These people had been removed from another shelter and were expected to be able to fend for themselves on a cold and snowy night in a city that was already lacking power and shelter. Someone had even given them the name, “the homeless homeless.”

The people at THIS shelter were appalled. And though they were already nearly full, they were able to squeeze over one hundred people in a heated dining hall that was built to seat seventy five.

The homeless people didn’t have equity or 401ks, but that night it wouldn’t have mattered even if they had. That night, everyone who was cold was given a warm place to stay. Everyone who was hungry was fed a hot meal. That night everyone was homeless, and everyone was provided for.

Jesus showed up on the scene that night, working through people who cared for those who are the most vulnerable. They gave shelter to those who had been cast aside by others. They had compassion for people who had no one to speak for them and nowhere to go.

When Jesus saw the widow’s grief, he had compassion for her. His heart went out to this woman who had lost everything, the complete opposite in every way to the centurion Jesus helped last week. Man, woman. Powerful, powerless. Member of the occupying army, part of the population being oppressed. And yet, Jesus helps both. Jesus healed the centurion’s servant, and in the next town over, interrupted a young man’s funeral in order to make it unnecessary. 

And Jesus is just getting started. Because wherever Jesus shows up, things happen. Storms are calmed. Demons are cast out, people are healed. The hungry are fed. The blind receive sight. Children are blessed. Health is restored. Mourning is turned to joy. A dying criminal next to Jesus is given hope. A tomb is now empty, and the stone is rolled away.

The widow in this particular story experienced Jesus intruding into her most intimate grief and she was never the same again. She didn’t ask for Jesus help; she might not even known who he was. But she was experiencing a great loss, and Jesus restored to her what had been taken away. 

She could easily have spoken the words of today’s psalm after her son was given back to her. Yes, it was her son that was restored to her from the grave, but not having anyone to care for her must have felt like a fate worse than death. She must have been filled with fear.
But because of what Jesus did, her wailing in sorrow was turned into dancing for joy. She was no longer shrouded in clothes of mourning, but instead was overcome by happiness.  Last night she wept, but today joy is here to stay.

But also those “homeless homeless” could have had this psalm on their lips as well, when they were rescued from a night as cold as death out on the Sandy damaged streets. Because the body of Christ, the hands and feet of Jesus, reached out to show kindness and mercy to the least of these. Because when Jesus shows up in our midst, amazing things happen.

What about in your own life? How has Jesus shown up and surprised you? …

When in your own life has Psalm 30 been the song of your heart? …

When were the times when you DIDN’T want Jesus to show up, because if he did, your comfortable, secure life would never be the same?


You should know, though, that nothing can deter Jesus, nothing can get in his way – not lack of space or resources, not enemies or fear, not security or comfort. And not even death can get in the way of the love and mercy of God. Amen. 

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Why I really liked "Iron Man 3"

We went to see this movie with friends on a whim, so I really had no anticipation and nearly no expectations - the previews made the movie look like one long explosion. I liked the other two movies, too, but I was very very pleasantly surprised. And yes, there were a lot of cool explosions, too.

In no particular order:

1. The plot was complicated and surprising, but not overwhelmingly so. For an action movie, it was pretty balanced between action and plot (you know, those annoying slow bits with no explosions).

2. The kid. Wow. the perfect combination of innocence with cute chutzpah with just a touch of annoyance and childishness that really made me believe in this character. And I laughed a ton. This kid should get best actor.

3. Non-sugar coating of mental illness. Hopefully it's not too much to give away that Tony Stark suffers from anxiety attacks throughout the film, when he is reminded of some pretty traumatic stuff from The Avengers (like almost dying and stuff). It made him seem more real, more human and down-to-earth that such a cocky and genius super hero like Iron Man could still be psychological effected by all the crazy stuff he has been through. How this character struggled with his anxiety and insomnia I think helps to take away some of the stigma, so we do not see this as weakness, but rather as a sign that he is a normal person reacting to his life.

4. Pepper kicks some bad-guy behind. And I'm not talking about being inside the Iron Man suit (which is like for all of 30 seconds). But I can't say more because it's pretty much essential to the ending. I didn't like that she was a damsel in distress for a while (in a sports bra top) but she did participate in her own rescue (and help save the day).

5. I was shocked to discover that this movie passes the Bechdel Test. The Bechdel Test is an indicator of how well women are represented in a particular movie. It's pretty straightforward - there are three criteria that must be met. A) There is more than one woman who has a speaking role in the film. B) Two of these women have a conversation that C) is not about a man, most likely the male lead. Simple, right? But you would be surprised how many movies are made every year that do not pass this simple test. And, yet, in this film, Pepper DOES have a conversation about Tony with Maya, a scientist/one-night-stand from Tony's past, but later have a conversation about... I can't tell you. More spoilers.

6. The airplane scene. If you've seen it, you know what I'm taking about. I was actually sweating during it, and I don't think I breathed for a full two minutes (or so).

7. The end was pretty epic. And Tony finally gives Pepper a present that she actually loves (again, can't say what - spoilers).

So if you like action flicks, this one is worth seeing. Or at least renting, when it comes out.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

May 12 Sermon: Channeling Rob Bell


Grace and peace to you from God our Father from our Lord and savior Jesus the Christ. Amen.

I’m a really big fan of Rob Bell. He’s the one who produced the NOOMA videos you may have seen. His is also a brilliant writer and preacher, and his books remind us why God still matters.

So when I saw recently that he had a new book out, I couldn’t resist. It’s called “What We Talk About When We Talk About God,” which is great because the title is long and slightly confusing, sort of like the prayer we just heard Jesus pray a moment ago from the Gospel of John. And also like the Gospel of John, Bell is a master at taking things and experiences that on the surface seem to have nothing to do with one another and making them into more than the sum of their parts. Bell says to us, “Look at this…” “Now look at this…” “Now check THIS out…” “And now look at the whole thing…” And you’ll never think about those things in quite the same way again.

In this way, today I’m going to try to channel Rob Bell and the writer of the gospel of John. I’m going to tell you about monkeys, then I’m going to tell you about Lutherans, then I’m going to tell you about one of our shut-ins, and at the end, hopefully we’ll have learned something about Jesus and ourselves in the process.

In his new book, Rob Bell describes a fascinating study of the brains of monkeys done in the 90s. Italian scientists wanted to know what happens in the brain when the monkeys experienced something pleasant, like being fed a treat. They observed that, when a monkey ate a peanut, the pleasure centers of their brains lit up like a Christmas tree. Well, duh. That’s not exactly rocket science, right. But they also discovered that the same parts of the brain also lit up… when the monkeys watched the scientists eat a peanut.
What the scientists did affected the monkey’s brain. …

And our brains are wired that way too, wired for connection. For example, have you ever yawned when someone else did? Have you ever felt the rush of elation when your favorite sports team wins a brilliant victory when you yourself have not thrown a single pass or swung a bat even once to help them? Have you ever felt like you’ve gotten more out of an experience because you were with someone enjoying it right next to you? This is how God created us, for connection, for oneness.

But we don’t always act like it, do we?

When I was in seminary, I remember reading a very long and complicated article on the history of the Lutheran church in the United States from eighteen hundred to the present day. I know, really fascinating stuff. It went something like this: these two groups formed a synod, but later a small group left and joined this other synod, which after a while split into two, but a few years later rejoined, and teamed up with another synod, but soon after another group left and formed their own group, who joined up with this other group, who later split….

And on and on this went, for pages upon pages, decades upon decades. I still remember that article, because it taught me one thing – human beings, yes even Lutherans, find it difficult to get along with one another and love to have conflicts over the littlest things.
And if you keep going back in the history of God’s church on earth, you will find schisms and splits and fighting and conflicts, going all the way back to the early church, all the way back to Jesus’ own disciples.

When Jesus is praying for the unity of his followers, for them to all be one, you have to wonder what in the world he was thinking. Peter seems to suffer from chronic “Foot-In-Mouth” disease, Judas hands Jesus over to the authorities to be killed, and after the resurrection Thomas refuses to believe until he sees it with his own eyes.
Within a few years of Jesus’s resurrection, different factions were embroiled in conflict over things that we would now find very strange – like whether or not to become a Christian you had to become a Jew, or whether or not Christians could, in good conscience, eat food sacrificed to idols like Zeus or Athena.

In our day and age we are caught up in our own conflicts, such as the inclusion of those who are gay/lesbian/transgendered, the ethics of abortion and women’s reproductive rights, just to name a few of our current hot-button issues. Things can get pretty nasty between those of us who claim to follow the way of Jesus.

Jesus had to have foreseen that we really struggle to get this “oneness” thing. But still he prayed for his disciples… and he prayed for us to, for those of us who have believed through the words of Jesus’ followers down through the ages. He prayed that we would all be one, just as he and God the Father are one. Because God is Love, and oneness is the sign of this love.

The ultimate expression of that love was when Jesus, who was one with the Father, became one of us. This makes the question posed in the well-known song by Alanis Morrisette very easy to answer. “What if God was one of us?” Well, he would be born of poor parents and grow up to teach love and peace.  He would heal the sick and feed the hungry and talk to the outcast. He would pray for his followers, even when he knew that the moment the “amen” left his lips he would walk out the door and into the garden, right into the waiting arms of Judas.

Jesus became one of us so that we would become one with one another. And though we are still far from fully living into this calling, every so often God gives us glimpses of what this can look like, if we are really paying attention.

Many of you may remember Mavis Baker. She hasn’t been around in a while, at least physically – about eight years ago her husband died and not long after that she went to live in Hamilton at Care One. Unfortunately she often has trouble being present mentally as well. Her long-term memory seems fine, but she no longer has a firm foot hold on the present – whenever I visit her she often speaks about her parents and husband as if they are still with us.

The last few times I’ve visited her, I have brought her communion. Now whenever Pastor Egan or I bring communion to someone, whether they have had a long illness or are just unable to come to worship, we use the communion liturgy found on this leaflet. And as you can see, these have been well used over the years – this one is creased and has bent corners, but is still in good working order.

Mavis noticed the creases and the bent corners, as I got her wafer and wine ready. I told her that these had been well-loved, because these were used whenever we brought communion, to the many people who had been visited over the years.

Mavis looked thoughtful for a second, and then smiled a big smile. “Well, I’ll just think about how by holding this, I’m holding hands with all those people.”

That day, we all were holding Mavis’s hand, and every time we come together to celebrate Holy Communion, she is holding our hands too. But what if we lived the rest of our week, outside of this building, as if we were still holding Mavis’s hands?

In this prayer on the night of his betrayal, Jesus is flipping the script on us. May God daily give all of us the strength to be the answer to his prayer. AMEN.




Wednesday, April 24, 2013

I Don't Feel No Ways Tired: Good Shepherd Sunday


Grace and peace to you from God our Father from our risen lord and savior Jesus the Christ. Amen.

When I was a kid, my mom said I had a very common childhood disease called selective hearing. I’m sure you’ve heard of it. My husband thinks that I still have it, but I don’t think I should listen to him about that.

The Jewish leaders who interrogated Jesus suffered from an especially bad case of selective hearing. In fact, they had it so bad we should probably say they suffered from selective seeing as well. On this fourth Sunday in Easter we find ourselves in the middle of the Gospel of John, in the middle of a longer conversation Jesus was having about being the Good Shepherd.  This particular part of the conversation happened during the festival the Dedication, more commonly known as Hanukkah.

“Stop stringing us along, Jesus,” they demanded. “Tell us once and for all if you are the Messiah that we’ve been waiting for!”

This makes me want to ask them, “Where were you during the first half of the Gospel of John? Taking a nap?” By the time this conversation happened, Jesus had already turned water into wine, healed a young boy, a blind man, and a paralyzed man, walked on water AND feed five thousand people. Get with the program, people. But two thousand years’ worth of hindsight has given us a pretty comfortable view from which to judge the ridiculousness of their question. To us, now, they seem dense at best and impossibly stubborn at worst. Had WE witnessed what they had seen, surely WE would have become believers by now.

But really, is seeing believing?

Jesus said this to those who could not or would not see what he was up to, “my sheep hear my voice. I know them and they follow me.”

I think that sometimes sheep get a bad reputation for blindly following their leader, like lemmings ready to jump off a cliff to their deaths. Really, I think sheep just have very clear priorities. They want to be fed, and THEY KNOW who is going to feed them. They want to be kept safe, and THEY KNOW who is going to protect them. When they hear their shepherd’s voice, they get up and follow as fast as their little sheep feet can take them, because they KNOW they are going to be cared for.

But sheep don’t have the modern world to contend with. They don’t have a constant barrage of advertisements telling them the next hot thing they should buy in order to be happy/loved/or cool. They don’t have to listen to the same songs on the radio over and over again telling us that life is just about having fun and going to parties. They don’t see the pictures in the magazines telling men to be more manly and women to be more sexy. They don’t hear the constant messages of reality TV and the evening news about the randomness and craziness of this rat race called life.

It’s been a rough week OUT THERE in the world, hasn’t it? Just this week: kids in Trenton were playing in a park when a gunfight broke out nearby. Just this week: the explosions at Boston Marathon. And was just MONDAY. Just this week there was a tragic explosion at a fertilizer plant in Texas. Just this week two young boys were found living in a five by ten storage unit in Ewing. Just this week, an earthquake hit central China, killing thousands. And those were just a few of the headlines that made the news, only the smallest tip of a very big iceberg of pain and suffering in the world.

If seeing REALLY IS believing, then we are in a whole lotta trouble here, folks. If we just look at this week alone, we could easily come to the conclusion that the world is full of nothing but suffering and senseless violence rules the day. We would throw in the towel and conclude the world is a scary place, so what could some teacher from two thousand year ago talking about sheep have anything to do with me, here, now?

This matters because this man knew the heart and mind of God. Because this man healed people when they were broken and feed people when they were hungry. Because this man stood up to the powers of this world and beyond and said “No more.” Because this man stared death and the grave square in the face and didn’t blink, and we are four weeks into celebrating his rising from the dead. We belong to his flock, and we no longer have to be afraid.

During Jesus’ life, his flock consisted of twelve grizzled working men who had as much finesse as a hammer. They were selfish, quarrelsome, and often clueless when it came to what Jesus was trying to say to them. And since then, the flock of Jesus has come to include all who are in need of God’s grace – the poor and the oppressed, the addicted and the fearful, the broken and the exhausted, you and me.This is why the Jewish leaders refused to see – they could not abide the thought that flock of God including the likes of these.

Jesus didn’t say, “The sheep who have it all together, who always do the right thing at the right time, the perfect, unblemished sheep - THEY are the ones that hear my voice and follow me.” Jesus didn’t say that, because that kind of sheep would have no need of the gift of eternal life that Jesus has to offer. Jesus didn’t say that, because that kind of sheep simply does not exist. Instead, Jesus has claimed you in all your flawed glory as his own, a sheep of his own flock, a sinner of his own redeeming.

There is nothing that would cause our Good Shepherd to leave our side, nothing that would keep us from his care. Not our over-booked schedules, our exhaustion, our past mistakes, our suffering or even death can steal us out of the hand of Jesus. And when we find our final rest in him, there will be no more suffering, no more pain. No more hunger or thirst or war or torture or bombs or guns. There will be no more tears, because there will be nothing left to make us cry.

I recently attended the funeral of a friend’s mother who had died very suddenly. She was clearly a Tabitha for her church. During her memorial service, I was struck by these words in a hymn I had never heard before: “Nobody told me that the road would be easy. But I don’t believe He brought me this far to leave me.”

Friends, it’s time to turn on our selective hearing. When the world says that it’s too scary out there or that you aren’t strong enough to do anything about it anyway, Jesus says, “Follow me. You aren’t doing this alone. I’ll be here with you every step of the way.” And then just sit back and watch the amazing things that Jesus will do with your life.
For us who belong to this flock, seeing isn’t believing.  For us, believing is receiving.
From Christ our Shepherd, we receive love and acceptance. We receive comfort in the face of loss. We receive peace in the midst of fear and violence. We receive assurance of hope, that we are cared for, that God’s got our back.

The road that we travel together isn’t always easy, but God didn’t bring us this far only to leave us now. AMEN. 

Something that I didn't do in my sermon, but can do here, is link the song that I'm talking about: 




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Walking in a Winter Wisconsin Land!



It's catch-up time.! The week after Easter we flew back to Wisconsin to spend some time with my family. I had been back for four days last summer after being in a wedding in Chicago, but Beau could not go that time. So this is the first time in almost two years for both of us being back... so we had a lot of catching up to do!! One day we went to Katie's college (Marian in Fon du Lac WI at right), sat in on a class, saw her apartment, and the daycare she works at. We had a lunch and "open house" at one set of grandparents' and took the other Grandpa out to dinner at IHOP with the rest of the fam. We drove through all the new round-abouts in Neenah. I saw the cows and the cats at the farm, and spent some time helping Beau do research on my side of the family tree. We found some interesting things, like how the local paper reported in detail about the wedding dress that Grandma W wore, and details about how my great-grandpa died in a dynamite accident. Oh, yeah, it snowed one day, too! Then we brought back with us 7 pounds of cheese and I don't know how many pounds of steak, hamburger, and venison. And yes, we've shared the cheese curds. I suppose the fact that we brought my family Tasty Kakes makes it a fair trade... :)

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Upping my Tech

Beau and I just got back from an amazing workshop on ministry with young adults, which was fantastic and I'll write more about that once I've gathered my thoughts and can figure out what season I'm currently in (going from winter in WI to summer at Crossroads and now wet spring). But for now, I wanted to give a shout out and say that because of the workshop I have decided to take the plunge and sign up for twitter and instagram, and I've spruced up on my G+ as well.

Follow me on Twitter: @revlydianelson
Follow me on Instagram: lnelson001
Follow me on G+: Lydia Nelson